From many articles, quotes, book, and coaching words I kept reading and hearing “do Ask, Ask and Ask“. This goes whenever you want to get a clearer message, then it would be better to Ask and question ‘Why’. The purpose is good, but not many appreciate the same 🙂

It is a good step to act right, that reason I gave for myself.

Why? Since Ask will give you time-freeze to think whether the next step is right, just right, or not right.

For some people, Asking can be perceived like you don’t have the capability or all you want to do is procrastinate, while questioning ‘Why’ is can be perceived as disturbance, counter back, and a debate. Leading to end perception: You don’t want to do this! or You try to delay the time of delivery.

Yes, it is there the thought from some people. So, how are you going to fix or deal with that?

My advice is still to do what you need to do. Explain why you need to do this if the person is not into your request. Sometimes, your colleague or talking partner is not a person who can be at ease to be questioned. Sometimes, your colleague or talking partner thinks that you know what is the message but you try to challenge them. Even sometimes, your colleague or talking partner would have a short thought: I want this over with!

Another piece of advice from me is to change your tone and words, make them lower, give a smile or smiley icon even though the situation is hard for you. Controlling your emotion is a healing one to give you the best environment of comfort. You must show that even a debate can be ended without a fight. The room of discussion may be considered as war, but post-war everything should turn out to be normal.

Lastly, taking feedback is a must. You may deal with many types of people which you can not control. They are not a threat, in fact, they are your source of growing lessons who can provide appropriate input for you. It would be awkward for some people. Maybe like a kind of a surprise because it was not as such of common things they received. Hey, just move forward and never stop unless you need to take a break.

Enjoy your today!

AW – 08.01.2021